Musings & Memories Montage
Telling My Stories and Discovering Your Stories
Announcement #3 ~ Trying to Get Healthier ~ Again
08/11/08

Okay well ... Violetkey and I are tired of being unhealthy ... I put on some major tonnage this last winter and it's not been just falling off during the summer. So ...

We'll keep you posted on how it goes. Right now I'm just working on getting more exercise (doing better), remembering my vitamins (also doing much better) and not eating desert every time I leave the house. The latter has been most difficult. NY does mighty fine deserts especially upstate in the small towns.

We started a Google group and invited the other girls in the family and Linda ... but ummm ... so far I'm the only one showing up to that party. ... have to work on my encouragement skills too. Like, I'm sure everyone is out working on their plans. I also need to make sure everyone actually got their invites.

The rules for V and me (& the group are)
#1 you make your own plan ... it's hugely personal
#2 no one gives advice unless advice is asked for (I've already gotten my hand slapped on this one & deservedly so.)
#3 E N C O U R A G E

Alrighty ... well .. it's a life change thing ... so I'll be reporting on the life changes.

Oh and I started reading Maker's Diet ... hmmm yeah ... thinking on that ...
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Last comment made by Mary-LUE ~ 08/28/08
Announcement #2 ~Ta Da! A new niece - also very magical
08/08/08

We have become fast friends with Linda and Ashley. We laugh a lot. Linda tries to get me out of the house. Linda and Billy talk at the train station. Linda and Billy are the new video team at church. (I only type up the songs for display ... well and I might take notes on things that can be edited out.) I sit with Ashley during the services at church. Ashley listens to the sermons at church as best she can. Now. This can have some interesting consequences.

AshleyIn Ashley's world, she is about nine years old. Sometimes she's five. Sometimes, on the phone, she can sound like she's 22. Linda has made certain that Ashley understands how to enjoy people and how to be enjoyable. This has turned out to be great fun for me.

First, Ashley decided we needed to be called Aunt Pam and Uncle Billy because we were more than just an occasional entry into her life. This is a way to make us Hers.

Then, Ashley heard the pastor say that we are all family and suddenly the whole church was full of aunts and uncles.

Always Ashley has followed the escapades of my kids. She has learned their names, anticipated Noel's arrival, rejoiced over Noel, relished the photos.

And then on my birthday she suddenly asked me ... "Aunt Pam are any of my other cousins married?"

I had to pause and think. See, Ashley has her own real collection of aunts and uncles. I quickly decided that there was no way she was asking me to review that list with her. "Ashley, do you mean are any of my kids married?"

"Yes, your kids. You're my aunt and so your kids are my cousins. Are the others married?" So we did a review.

"Aunt Pam, will I ever get to even see a picture of your kids?" Hmmm well I realized I don't have a current pic of my kids! But I'm thrilled to report that Sarah fixed that for me. I had to pick my birthday package up at the post office which I managed to do one Saturday when the four of us met for our Saturday morning tradition of breakfast at the local cafe.

In the package was a fantastic piece that included my kids and their step-sister and each with their spousal unit. This, of course, was a very very happy occasion for Ashley. And there were a few more photos of Noel.

So, kids, meet your new cousin, Ashley.

I need a little favor. Would you please post a Hello note in the comments. Ashley's about to go to "sleep away camp" for two weeks and I would love to send her off with a note from each of ya'll. You have precisely 36 hours in which to accomplish this mission.

Alrighty! Thank you very much.
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Last comment made by Matthew (The Son) ~ 08/11/08
Announcement #1 ~ Ta DA! A New Granddaughter ~ As if by magic ...
08/04/08

I have a few announcements. Announcement #1 is that my granddaughter, Noel, was born on a temperature record-breaking day in May. Yes, I've been quietly relishing this event. Photo after Photo in my email. Do you want to see some?

Newborn NoelThis is Noel just a few hours old. She inherited her mother's little stork bite birth mark. If Noel is lucky, in second grade, she will send her teacher into a panic when it shows up while playing outside on the playground. It doesn't show unless the face is warm from exertion or crying and eventually it ends up on top of the head.

I'm starting to transfer Sarah's comments that go with the photos that are up on Flickr. She's as funny as her mother and daughter. And I have more pics that I received over the last few days. I'm very very happy to be living in the digital age. Now, next step is to teach Sarah how to put the pics on Flickr or Picasa.

I get to go see them in October ... and my son and his family, too! I might also visit my parents and brothers. We'll see if they show up to visit with us.

Ok go see the rest over on Flick'r.

Oh wait! I can't believe I forgot to mention this ... She is Elise #5 ... The line of Elise girls goes like this ... Noel Elise is the first born daughter(& currently only) of a first born daughter of a first born & only daughter of an only daughter of an only daughter. Sooo You see ... as an Elise ... her gene's have a lot of training in the "life as the spoiled & privileged." We've all often been the only or first girl in the entire extended family, too.

Ok now go explore the life of Noel.
www.flickr.com
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Last comment made by Merredith ~ 08/07/08
What You See vs What I See
12/03/07

You see a birthday card ... I see ...

What you see vs What I see

1. I see a loving son who cares so much for his wife that he sent me a text message to remind me that Nov. 30 was his wife's birthday.

2. I see a reminder that I left my cell phone at home and couldn't call Sam on her birthday. Well that and I was fairly sure that by the time I got home, she was sufficiently entertained by her husband.

3. I see a new addiction. This is my first experience creating cards using stamps and art papers.

4. I see a lady who has a heart for the women in our church and went to the trouble of creating an opportunity for a new ministry for fellowship and outreach.

5. I see more ladies from our church who added adorning suggestions to her idea. We are now looking forward to a full year of stamping and scrapbooking.

6. I see my disappointment that the catalog that went around at our get-together didn't have stamps in it that would create a Christmas card with a strong Christian message.

7. I see my disappointment driving me to search the web for Christmas stamps that landed me here: The Stampn'Place. They have numerous Christmas stamps that are not bashful about saying "Jesus is the reason for the season."

8. I see how the search reminded me of Dr. Dobson's recent interview with Ashley Tarter in which she explains the beginning of her campaign "It's Ok Wish me Merry Christmas." She was experiencing an overwhelming sadness that her son might grow up to live in a day when the country no longer knows of the Christmas season -- that it would be completely wiped from our culture. So she, just one person, has started something that is growing more and more.

9. I see how the search reminded me of this guy that my husband loves to follow. I encourage you to join my hubby and myself in expressing Stuart Shepard's sentiments: "Merry Tossmas!" Ya'll!

10. I see how the search led me to discover "Jews Against Anti-Christian Defamation." And I wonder -- How is it that the most persecuted religion in the world understands what we Christians want to deny, passively allow, and even blithely encourage in some ways: Christians are being persecuted more and more with every passing day RIGHT here IN the USA.

11. I see a reminder that my son has married a lady who will take great joy in knowing that there's all of this behind her birthday card. I know she believes, like Ashley Tarter, one person can make a difference and she doesn't mind stepping forward and she encourages others to do so also.

12. I see a challenge ... I don't have an envelope for the card. Hmmmm ... Wait ... I might !! I have these Christmas cards that I bought last year for this year ... I think this would be the season for pulling them out of storage!

Okay, I'll see ya'll later! I'm going to grab the cards and walk down to the cafe next to the post office .... etc ... Ya'll go explore the links I left you. You will be encouraged, stunned, and amazed.

Oh wait! Also! I see a black wool coat that a friend of mine really encouraged me to pick up at a thrift store for the mere cost of $6! And then she and I were out a few weeks later and we walked right into a hot pink cap that matches the color on this coat ... it cost ... are you ready? ONE Dollar!

My daughter-in-law will be so proud. She loves thrift stores and great deals.

Have fun,
Enjoy,
Pam

Pam is a Texan living on the Southern fringe of Upstate New York. She experienced something new yesterday. The ground was kissed with a dusting of snow and she just smiled and went on with business as usual. She did not frantically break to take photos. It was just a teaser of things yet to come. It was not her one and only chance for the entire winter season. Besides ... she was already running late to church.
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Last comment made by atypical ~ 12/11/07
Thanksgiving with Texans in New York
11/22/07

First you should know that the weather was typical for Texas. Slightly cool and a touch humid. It was always above 70 degrees indoors from the heat of the kitchen stove. And so you should be able to guess that there was no lack of food. Texans Hate to run out of food when guests are involved. No Texan ever prepares for the minimum expected guests. So ...

We had a dozen mouths to eat one exceedingly large turkey ... ohh and that was one scrumptious turkey ... oh I'm being corrected ... It still is one scrumptious turkey because we still haven't managed to eat it all. There were 4 trays of dressings aka stuff'n. Candied sweet potatoes, Mashed potatoes, Red potatoes. Corn casserole -- the recipe was well known by two families from opposite sides of Texas (300 miles apart). Jellied cranberry sauce right from the can and fresh cranberry sauce which only adults knew how to eat. Two crates of Clementine oranges. The every popular, impossible to skip green bean casserole (with them onion thingies on top). And then I think it's time to move on to the deserts.

OH MY GOODNESSS....

Well of course Texans have to have Pecan Pie -- chocolate. And cherry-covered cheesecake, blueberry cheesecake, lemon icebox pie, strawberry cheesecake, peanut butter fudge, and the obligatory experimental pie. Ice cream and frozen yogurt were also available ... but they went largely untouched.

Of course, Texans can never leave the Thanksgiving scene without a rousing game of ... err ... uhhh (Darling what was that thing called) ooh Age of Empire on a network of six pc's.

We also fixed the local government. They are blissfully unaware of this event until Wednesday of next week. I'll let you know how that goes.

So I think that's about it. I hope ya'll all had a wonderful day.

Have fun,
Enjoy,
pam

Pam is a Texan living on the Southern fringe of Upstate New York. She figures the fact that she can have Thanksgiving with so many Texans is one of the reasons this place is enjoyable.
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Last comment made by Sarah ~ 11/25/07
Hmmm So I Picked up a Christmas Tree
11/20/07

Yeah ummm I have a Christmas Tree. It's about 3.5 feet tall. I don't have my Christmas Ornaments. Maybe VioletKey will get the ornaments sorted and sent over. But It might just sit here and be pretty and green. My first concern is ... I think I'd like to rediscover my apartment. I wouldn't mind having a clean apartment and a simple little green tree.

We've been moving this that and the other around ... but not very well since Billy is in pain. It's not constant pain but it is a "zap all your time and energy" kind of pain. So ... pretty much things are shoved around ... and really not pretty at all.

I'm hoping that by Christmas, everything will be all sorted out.

ok

Have fun,
Enjoy,
pam

Pam is a Texan living on the Southern fringe of Upstate New York. Tonight she's wondering what her day tomorrow as the scullery maid will be like -- she's agreed to assist Billy with prep for Thanksgiving dinner.
Claiming the "Emergency/ Hardship" Exemption
11/17/07

Last year in NaBloPoMo there was an exemption for missing a day posting. It went something like this: If there's an emergency or some circumstance far beyond your control that prevents you from posting, AND IF you blog the following day AND talk about what happened, THEN you're still in.

I have no idea if there's the same rule this year ... but I'm going to claim it anyway ... besides ... I have something to tell you.

OK. Yesterday was Billy's second surgery. When we woke up, he started being very resistant to me going with him. His basic premise was that he wouldn't be any fun, I'd be bored, I'd be alone ... and on and on and on and on and on ... and besides, "you could help a little with the wedding."

I pouted, got over it, and stayed home. All I did the whole day was hang out with people that I like and fold crepe paper streamers. I promise ... I'll get a pic today so you can understand what I'm talking about.

Billy finally went into surgery. We called it a day at the reception decorating event. I snagged a friend and she took me out to dinner ... um she drove and entertained me and I paid for dinner ... it was an excellent trade. While we were at dinner, a very very very loopy man called me claiming to be Billy. Since he still exhibited the trademark humor of Billy, I accepted that it was indeed Billy.

Then my friend and I went to the wedding rehearsal. My friend is helping with the video. I found out that the brother of the groom, who is one of the groomsmen, is also the photographer. I don't know what the story is ... but this group of people attending the wedding is one of the LEAST camera toting bunch I've ever encountered ... so I'm taking my camera today. I'll see if I can just get some candids and some mood shots and ... then I can just hand the RAW's off to the brother who should be able to fix them up.

I might consider sending my camera to the shop. But that's another story.

Sooo after the rehearsal dinner, my friend and I went and picked up her daughter. Then we went down to the hospital to see my Billy. Now, this is NOT "We whipped around the corner and picked up her daughter and took a quick spin to the hospital." Remember, I live on the Southern fringe of Upstate New York. So it was 15 min to her daughter and then another 45 miles or so to the hospital.

We saw the loopy man. He was not happy and very easily distracted. I did get a really good hello and a really great good-bye. And I had to be content. So we left.

So we pulled up to my house by about 11:15pm. No power. No power anywhere. So my friend and her daughter waited while I gathered up a few things and I left. There wasn't going to be any power at her house either but at least she still had some emergency backup power and had water. And besides ... we were just all happier together ... long story but ... let's just say that her daughter was busy worrying about me ... and this way there was less for her to worry about.

But no power meant no post. Sooo ... there's my saga. Oh we did wake up to power and at the cafe this morning I heard, "Somebody took out about 3 power poles over on such and such county road." Somebody had a harder day than we did.

Ok now for the rest of the "did you get your husband back?" story. The very very very short version is ...

Yes, I did get the hubby back. About 4am this morning my real Billy returned to his own body (he started to feel really great) and after he issued some threats ("If you don't manage to find a way to get me released by 10:30 am, you'll be stuck with me until 6pm"), he was indeed released from the hospital and retrieved by another very good friend.

The man is home, very happy, feels fantastic. Oops! I lie! He is NOT at home. He has gone to help yet another friend cut up cooked chickens for the wedding meal tonight. Don't ask me to explain how the man can look like death warmed over the night before and then be rip-raring ready to run less than 12 hrs later. All I can say is that he is indeed his father's child. His dad was like this. Oh and, also, his dad always tried to remove all of his IV's etc and get out of bed in recovery. As did Billy.

Ok I have to run now!!!

Have fun,
Enjoy,
pam

Pam is a Texan living on the Southern fringe of Upstate New York. Today is the first wedding she has attended in New York. The ceremony is in a church that is very very old and the reception is at a farm.
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Last comment made by Sarah ~ 11/25/07
Change is a foot
11/14/07

I'm not sure exactly what the change will look like but ... it is a foot. My little coffee shop that I love so much may morph. It's a rather huge big deal.

I'm waiting for some pieces to move into place ... and I'm evaluating what I will do.

Okay no this is not just about a game! This is about my RL art, my RL writing, and community. I'll tell you more as the story unfolds.

In the mean time ... There's a huge amount of other RL stuff going on this weekend. Well starting tomorrow. I'm helping a friend decorate for her son's wedding. Then Billy goes in for stage two of his trama ... probably an overnight stay. Then the wedding. Then helping with the Christmas Child project at church here and there.

Ooooh let me tell you! The Christmas Child Project ... wow wow wow. People are very generous and there's been a very nice stack growing and growing all week ... and there's still four more days left for collecting. Usually the largest days. It's causing a small storage challenge for the wedding but ... we're figuring it out and everyone is stepping up to the plate to help out and it's just amazing.

Deciding how I'm folding, doubling, mutilating or spindling the coffee shop will have to keep until Monday. I leave you with a few pics.

Sooo I must sleep, now.

Have fun,
Enjoy,
pam

Pam is a Texan living on the Southern fringe of Upstate New York. She is thankful to belong to a church that does know how to do one thing right: Accomplish projects in harmony ... everyone doing some part. Amazing.

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As I was Saying ... !!
11/02/07

Well, To pick back up where I was so rudely interrupted by my Internet provider!

MarillaAnne's Place

Yes, that's "me" riding a dragon that continuously hovers over MarillaAnne's Place. He's very friendly. Never bitten a single soul. I might talk to a scripter (someone who can make things move about and do things) and see if I can get that changed, though. An watch dragon could be handy.
MarillaAnne's Place ~ Left SideThis is the left side of my coffee shop. See the lightpost? It is a very special lamp. Billy made it and it only required two prims (building blocks). This is a huge big deal for another post.






MarillaAnne's Place ~ Right SideThis is the right side of my coffee shop. I made the bar, the stools, and the fireplace. Oh! Yes, those are my photos in there on the wall. That's also another story for another day. But, they were the beginning inspiration for the coffee shop.




Now, for a brief intro to The Upstairs Art Gallery. Brief: Amazing. This is my fourth artist. I'm beginning to understand how to do a bit of publicity. And the gallery is beginning to have a name, a reputation. You can read more about this particular artist and exhibit here on my other blog.

Tonius Alderson's Photos at MarillaAnne's Place

Now, in other news. I broke down and got a Flickr Pro account. So you can see the rest of the images that I uploaded re MarillaAnne's Place there.

Also, It seems my oldest child has been diligently keeping a big, huge secret!!!

Sarah's News

OOoops!!
09/12/07

So tell me what could the Tooth Fairy, your comments, Mary-LEU's award, 100% humidity, wounded wings, computer reloads, colds, pink eye, lightening, coffee shops, and another long assortment of events / items possibly have in common? How about the word "oops"?

The Tooth Fairy

The first "oops" is just for all you Tooth Fairy assistants out there.

One Tooth Fairy Assistant stopped by my husband's workplace recently. He shared this real life, absolutely true story.

One of his little wards left her tooth out for collection. He slipped in to her room as she slept, flipped open his wallet, pulled out a bill, and made the swap. Business as usual.

The next morning the very, very excited little darling ran to her daddy waving a $50 bill. Yes, that's F I F T Y.

The warning that the Tooth Fairy Assistant delivered is this: Never pull a bill from you wallet in the dark.

Poor Tooth Fairy Assistant only had a $5 bill with which to buy his lunch -- for several days.

Running Damaged

OOoops! For weeks I had a damaged shoulder from mousing around too much. But I started doing some stretching exercises, changed some sleeping habits, took more ibuprofen than I like to, and gradually started to improve.

I also ordered a $20 pen tablet to use more often than my mouse. It's a referb. I knew I was buying old technology. Oops! When it arrived, the box said "Works great with Windows 98!" But I tell you it also works great with Windows XP! Vista? What's Vista?

Ok this is just plain sick

Let's see ... On 8/25, I came and logged in to approve Atypical's comment from 8/8!! And oops! Not only was I shamefully slow in posting Atypical's post, I discovered that my comment notifications were no longer being received by my email (not that this is a guarantee because I don't always ck my email ... But ... Still!)

I'm going to plead for you to take into consideration that I had to reload my pc right in about this time as it was sick with some spybot of some sort.

And Ooops! Around the 20th came down with a cold.

But, here I was, on Saturday, the 25th (remember?) and I thought I was settling in to write a response to your comments and post an update, etc.

OOops! The day was rapidly heating up and the humidity was getting intense. We finally decided that even though I was only marginally well we HAD to leave the house out of self-defense. For example, the kitchen floor is ceramic tile and it was wet like it had been raining inside the house. Literally. And that bugger was slick as boogers. We were also concerned about running the pc's in conditions like that.

So we went to White Plains in what turned out to be 100 degree heat and 100% humidity to hide in the bookstore and pick up my new glasses.

OOOppps! My glasses are tri-focal transitional ... Ummm I'm fairly sure that the mid-range is messed up. Even after practicing with them for all this time, I'm still convinced. Soooo why not make a return trip to get them checked?

OOoops! On the following Wednesday ... just as my cold was truly receding ... I woke up with pink-eye aka conjunctivitis ... the VIRAL version, of course! So no three-day cure with antibiotics for me! It still dribbles some! Lets see I'm into day about day 10 ... at least I'm not waking up with my eye glued shut anymore! And I can even look at the computer for several hours at a time!

Oh but get this Oooops! Somehow I've still managed to gain a little weight! With next to no appetite! Go fish.

In the Billy Department

About two weeks ago Billy went to the doctor. So Ooops now he's scheduled for a little minor surgery in early October to rid of an annoying cyst-thing. He's relieved. So, really that might not fit the oops category.

But this does: Ooops! There was flooding in Ohio. The Southern Baptist Disaster Relief teams were called and Billy and another gentleman agreed to go ... but ... oops there were a few things to consider before they could leave ... and then oops there were enough people for the week ... plan for next weekend ... then oops ... really there were so many people and progress was going so well that well ... never mind.

Goodness all that "oh I'm going" "Oh, no, I'm going later" etc got a bit confusing. So much so that at one point I found myself making plans in my head for while Billy was gone ... even after I knew he wasn't leaving!

OH and there's this rather large OOOOPS!

How to NOT Light up My Life. Please!

We live on top of a hill. Our apartment is in the basement. (Only the bedroom can't see out, it's not a dungeon.) Up here, summer is thunderstorm season. So adding those two together we already knew better than to leave any computer equipment plugged in during a rain event. And we don't go to bed or leave until they are unplugged.

So, a storm moved in and we did all the usual things: unplugged the pc's, closed the windows, did not get in the shower, etc.

Yes. This time the house got struck and Ooops! Billy became part of the light show. He was cooking. The pot was an all metal stew pot. Ok, so, add this to the "What not to do during a thunderstorm" list: Do not cook on an electric stove.

After we got over the initial shock :~p Billy proceeded to give me a lecture (complete with props) about volts and amps. I'll spare you all the details. The bottom line is that there were enough volts for an impressive light show but not enough amps to kill him -- just give him the "hebejeebies."

Thank God!

Your Comments, Your Blogs, Mary-LUE's Award

Now, truly things are out of control here, in this department. I am struggling for balance. I miss ya'll.

First off, OOoops, the idea of trying to respond in posts instead of when I approve your comments ... obviously isn't working and isn't going to work. So, I'm returning to the old system.

I did enjoy reading the posts that ya'll linked to. Thank you very much!

And ya'll should find it amusing that my friends and family are beginning to tell me about ya'll's blogs ... Yes! It's true. And, no, not just Daughter V.

And I'm humiliated to admit that Daughter V had to tell me about my award, Mary-LUE. I should have found your note so much sooner! And that it's taken me this long to say "Thank you!" is beyond disgraceful. I really appreciate your kind words and hope that you still think most of the good things that you've thought before.

As to my own Writing

OOoops, I started this post in my journal on 8/29 while I was at the coffee shop waiting on my train to the doc's office.

Oooops, I typed up the first 1/3 on 9/4 ... and oooops it's taken most of today to get this finished (in between other stuff).

So, obviously, I need to go back to my 15 min a day plan.

I also started a Second Life blog for MarillaAnne. I did this because that particular blog hangs around in my profile in Second Life. That profile is one click away from every crazy and every wonderful person in there. So, yes, even though we all know that I can be tracked to this blog ... AND even though we all know there is a certain measure of risk in writing about ourselves on the web ... I have still decided to make it necessary for Second Lifer's to make it a research project to get to this blog. Ok it's a really short research project ... but you get it.

But oops ... I've not been writing for it either!

So by now you're thinking ... wait ... this woman has been wounded, sick, and obviously a little distracted with life ... is she really still in Second Life?

Ummm, yes.

And now I own a coffee shop in Second Life.

But oooops I'm going to weasel out of writing about it right this second because it will require several posts and for some reason my eye has become very unhappy with me and it is now past my bed time.

I started to go to bed and you know add some more to this in the morning ... but ... I think I've droned on enough in this post.

And ... just because this feels like a really long letter for the folks back home (yes, especially my fellow bloggers) ...

I just want ya'll to know I miss being with ya'll all the time and I think of you often. Hopefully, I'll be back with you soon.

Love and hugs,
Pam
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Last comment made by TerriB ~ 09/24/07
15 min: Birthday Recognition
07/04/07

Yesterday I heard from all three of my kid-o's on the phone. This in and of itself is a small miracle because usually the summer signal to my cell phone is non-existent. It was nice.

And I heard from my long, long time friend. Notice I did not say "Old Friend. She sent me a special IM greeting.

And last week one of the couples in my church surprised me with a little card. It was unexpected and it brought many encouraging words to me.

Word got around in SL and some people surprised me with a little "Linden Love" -- some of the Linden "money."

The day before my birthday I took a little tumble in my drive way. I'm fine. My hands hurt a little. Some of us had big laughs about pain on birthdays.

It's my last year to be younger than fifty. I've been given a perspective lately that I am not really old yet. My parents are into their seventies. They attend church with people who are at least 15 years older than them. These people are quick to assure my parents that they are still young (and not quite as wise as they). This exact sentiment was shared with me by a lady whom I shared about 15min of space with in the airport. She was 87 and quite bright-eyed. Basically, she just said, "Never quit."
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Last comment made by Sophie ~ 07/12/07
Greetings from Dallas, Texas
05/18/07

Okay so ... yeah ... I am in Dallas. Do you want to know why I am in Dallas? No, actually it has nothing to do with being homesick.



They were classmates in first grade . . .

Providence brought them back together in high school . . .

Undoubtedly [DaddyRay] thought [Mother H]'s beautiful smile and demure way were even more charming than in elementary school . . .

Likely [MotherH] thought [DaddyRay]'s curly hair and blue eyes were as debonair as ever . . .

A few short years after they discreetly held hands on the school bus under a pile of coats. . .

May 1957, before God, they promised to love, honor and cherish . . .

Join us in celebrating a 50 year love affair. . .



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The wording: My daughters came up with. I think that part was mostly Daughter S's doing.

The invitation: Daughter VioletKey used her BS to do the invitation design. They made a fantastic creation.

The images: My Daughter S had to break down and tell my parents that they were planning a surprise anniversary party for them ... just to keep them from leaving town. So in the process she also acquired their co-operation.

My additional note: He still smirks like that when he looks at her ... ever so pleased that he caught such a catch!

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If you happen to be my parents ... Shhh it's a secret that I'm here and no, I really didn't lie. We really are hoping to come as a unit to visit in September. Billy really isn't here. He really is at the Southern Baptist Disaster Relief Training in NY (yes NY, ya'll) and I really would have gone with him if I were there.

And no your daughter-in-law and son did not lie to you ... especially not your daughter-in-law because she really hadn't heard any more about me coming ... from me.

Besides this is huge and it required massaging the truth a little ...

Also, do not call me on the phone tonight. I am asleep. I am delerious.

And, Atypical, I am not using Firefox so there's probably typo's ;-) ... feel normal.

Sooooo ... yeah I'm sure there's questions ... ask. Sometime I'll answer ... I would say tomorrow ... but it seems that for me especially ... tomorrow never comes.
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Last comment made by Sarah ~ 06/13/07
Keeping Texas With Me
04/15/07

3. What are some methods you use to keep a little bit of Texas with you wherever you go?

And so I continue to answer Atypical's interview questions out of order.

This question caused me to laugh. We all know I've been suffering from a wave of Texas Spring Fever. One of the things I did was order a Texas Travel Guide. I was looking through it today. It started reminding me of things ... things it never intended.

There is something uniquely different about Texas and it's in the people. We don't understand how independent we are.

We've been told we're un-accepting of people different from us but that's a huge lie that we tend to let people believe -- mainly because we're independent and don't need a stamp of approval. We're actually very friendly and outgoing and people from the North tend to thaw out after they move down there.

In Texas, if you express a hope or dream strongly, people seem to automatically believe you are capable of accomplishing it and they automatically start directing you to people in their network who can probably help. Some call it the "good ol' boy" system but the women share their resources as well. Lately, the ranks are merging and the men and women are sharing their networks.

And Texans tend to be the types that believe in right and wrong ... which contributes to our independent ways.

These are the parts of Texas that are always with me because they are always in me. It makes it difficult for new areas of the country to assimilate me. It made Oregon impossible for me to enjoy. Kansas is difficult for me to understand. New Yorkers are actually a lot more like Texans than they know -- well at least the one's out away from NYC are. Possibly this is because not so many generations ago Texas was populated by people from the east coast. Even families that hailed from Tennessee were only a generation or maybe two away from the Virginia area.

Because of the lifestyle changes Billy and I chose and that were sometimes chosen for us, much of what is Texas is in my laptop (ok well now in my desktop) because dragging Things around the countryside in small vehicles and later in boxes and then even in backpacks ... is a PAIN. But it is amazing what can be cherished in pixels. I have photos of people, places, and things. I have emails and saved chats. And then, Lord, what the Internet holds for me of Texas is most amazing.

I would have to say that one of the most defining things about me ... that is Texas with me ... is that I cannot seem to leave an area without saying, "Whelll ... Ya'll have fun. See ya later." (That is a three syllable "well.") I Say This to Complete Strangers that I have Not made any arrangement with that would even hint at a hope of seeing them later. Now, that confuses the daylights outta people. But it's Texan.

The other thing I do is claim to be "A Texan living on the southern fringes of Upstate New York and loving it." For some reason people are usually amazed to find out that I, as a Texan, love living here. "Upstate New York" cannot be clearly defined by New York natives. It confuses me that everyone in the populace here has a differing idea of where Upstate begins and ends. Then, I was shocked to find out that the New York court system considers me to be living in Upstate while another government body considers me to be living in a portion of the "New York City metropolitan area" ... which is just as wrong as saying I'm upstate. The Federal Courts consider me to be part of the Southern District But if I claim to be from Southern New York, then there's whole 'nuther region that would object. Then my husband stated trying to tell me that we live in the Hudson Valley ... Uh NO! We do not live near the "canyon" that the Hudson River flows through. I don't care that a portion of our county does. We do not. We actually live on the edge of The Great Swamp. But, if I say that, then people think I live in New Jersey. I'm just sooo much better off saying I live in New York, near Danbury Connecticut.

So my revenge is in the ironies of my statement of who I am, where I live, and how I feel about it. If I'm going to be confused, everyone else can be confused, too.

Ok so I started out to put together just a small sampling of how I keep Texas with me digitally. Well, I had to include a bit of this and a bit of that and, well, it was just wrong not to show you the people ... because the spit-fire and mischievousness shows up in their eyes ... along with the "Hey! There you are!" attitude ... As usual ... it got way out of hand. There's about 255 images. They are small so they display quickly. I know for a fact that I will not leave this album up in it's entirety -- definitely a "limited time" offer.

You have options:
1) View the slide show and set the display to about 2 seconds. OR
2) View the thumbnails and pick and choose. But if you can't tell why the image is in the group ... you should click on it.

Texas to Me
Family, Friends,
Fireworks, Flowers, Dogs, Lakes, Land,
Starbucks, Moon, and Sun.
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Last comment made by Violetkey ~ 04/16/07
"Baby" Update
03/27/07

Finally!!



That's about 72 miles away. Now, there's no telling when it will get here tomorrow.

Arrgggg!

Okay I think I might should tell ya'll some of the rest of the story.

Back ... wwway back ... before MailBoxes etc was a household name ... back when the franchise was maybe four or five years old, I worked in one of the stores.

It was fascinating. People thought the counter was the bar and I was the bartender. They'd walk in and put their packages down and then fill me in on alllllllllllll the drama surrounding this package -- and if I was really lucky, they'd also include their life story.

One thing we did on a regular basis was call the customer service people to track down a package. It was just a regular love-fest. Not.

So fast forward about fifteen years and what did my Daughter V do for about 1.5 yrs? She worked at a FedEx/Kinko's. She did everything I did at MBE in a whole new modern way.

Guess what ... nothing's really changed as far as people go. One small advantage she had: She could at least try to track a package by looking it up online. 'Cause that love-fest thing with customer service ... that didn't change either.

And we're both laughing about my frustration about the (lack of) tracking re my baby. Just because you know how the system works doesn't take away anxiety.

Next stage: Will it be in one working piece if it does actually make it to my door?

After all ... to quote my former employer ... "They say there's not a war on but I'd never know it by the shape these boxes arrive in."
The Wikipedia Time Machine Meme
03/25/07

Well, I think we can pretty well establish that I have a proven record of struggling to remain inside the boundaries of any meme's original scope and intent. Mary of Life, Universe and Everything tagged me for a fairly harmless looking little meme. The idea is ...

1. Go to Wikipedia and type in your Birthday Month and day only.
2. List 3 Events that occurred that day.
3. List 2 important Birth days.
4. List 1 Death.
5. List a Holiday or Observance. (if any)
6. Tag 5 other bloggers.
I came close to staying within the boundaries. As to #6, I'm tired from all the exploring I did when I fell head over heals into this little exercise. It was amusing, informative, and ... a little disheartening to discover that only movie stars and musicians were born after say 1945-ish. Oh, yeah, right, as I was saying ... I'm worn out from goofing off with this ... so ya'll talk amongst yourselves, compare notes, and tag someone else to do the meme. Then come back and let me know "who, what, when, where ...." If you want, you can even throw in "why."

For my birthday: July 3

EventsBirths
  • 1567 - Samuel de Champlain, French explorer (d.1635)[Loved to do small things on his birthday ... like establish cities in out of the way places ... like Canada.]
  • 1738 - John Singleton Copley, American painter (d.1815) "... was a Boston-born American artist of the colonial period, famous for his portraits of important figures in colonial New England, particularly men and women of the middle class. His portraits were innovative in that they tended to portray their subjects with artifacts that were indicative of their lives." [Yeah ... but when the going got tough ... he took off for England.]
  • 1958 - Aaron Tippin, American [country] singer [I do not mind sharing my bday with him.]
Death
1749 - William Jones, Welsh mathematician (b.1675) "As a
mathematician, his most noted contribution is his proposal for the use of the symbol π (the Greek letter pi) to represent the ratio of the circumference of a circle to its diameter. He became a close friend of Sir Isaac Newton and Sir Edmund Halley. In 1712, he became a Fellow of the Royal Society, and was later its Vice-President." [The man knew how to collect friends! Can you imagine bumping into the three of them at the local coffee shop?]

Holiday / Observance
July 3 is the official first day of the Dog Days of Summer. And my mom will be the first to vouch for the truth of this statement. She does not have fond memories of dealing with a first new baby in the heat.


For my mother's birthday: March 23

EventsBirths
  • 1699 - John Bartram, American botanist (d.1777)
  • 1924 - Bette Nesmith Graham, American inventor (d.1980)
  • 1941 - Jim Trelease, American educator and children's literature author [My kids will remember The Read-Aloud Handbook and now out is The New Read-Aloud Handbook. I can say without hesitation Jim Trelease's book contributed to my children's great love of books. It is a HUGE MUST GET BOOK if you have children ... or grandchildren ... or know children ... or know anyone who has children ...]
Death
1982 - Barney Clark, first artificial heart recipient (b.1921)

Holidays
I was totally dissatisfied with the holidays listed on Wikipedia so, with very little effort, I discovered that March 23 is both "Liberty Day" (in honor of the 1775 speech by Mr. Henry) and it is "Near Miss Day." You can read "Did the Earth almost get hit by an asteroid on March 23, 1989?" at The Astronomy Cafe
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Last comment made by Darren ~ 03/26/07
Women are Fantastic Friday #1 -- JoAn
02/26/07

Last week Sophie, of A Hole in the Fence, announced a new meme: Women are Fantastic Friday. Yes, I know this isn't Friday but, well, I've gotten over the fact that I'm running behind and I hope you will, too.

When Sophie announced her meme, I became very enthused about it because for a couple of years I've wanted to do a series on women who have inspired me. I am not inspired when I meet a woman who wants me to be convinced she has arrived. I have a preference for teachers and leaders and friends who are not only aware of their faults but they confess their faults in order to receive help and guidance themselves.

So most of the stories I will tell you are glimmers of our greatness as women. They will be an opportunity to enjoy the glazed sides of clay figurines.

The first lady I want to tell you about is JoAn -- a lady who has been my consistent encourager and coach for the last four years.

As a consistent encourager she has called me almost every weekend ... especially when I was going through really rough times. "Just calling to see how you're doing."

I was seldom doing great -- usually angry about something -- but JoAn would get me talking and before long she'd have me hoping against hope ... looking at little things I could do to guard my emotions ... gently nudge my thoughts with stories and questions ... and she'd covet with me to pray about one aspect or another. Then she'd turn the conversation towards my children and find out how she should be praying for them. Then we'd talk about what was going on for her and we'd choose an aspect of her life to pray over ... usually it was a person near and dear to her.

This one aspect alone would rank JoAn in my "most admired" ... especially since she's never flinched when I was angry.

But, you should also know this ... When we met JoAn we were all hanging out at a particular camp ground full-time. Gradually our friendship grew and we would go to the chapel service at the campground and then "quick, hop into the car" (that's an inside joke) and buzz into a nearby town for a second church service with the locals. Often we went on to lunch ... sometimes just she and us and sometimes with additional friends. These were some of the best Sundays in my life.

JoAn had a stroke many moons ago. Her left side became numb and lame. But, once she moved past the original shock and struggle, JoAn settled into a routine that required her to make changes to her personality. She learned to ask for help and accept appropriate help when it was offered. She learned to arrange her life to fit into the schedules of those who could help. And she learned to accept slow, consistent progress as a valid way to progress through life.

JoAn also learned to arrange her life so that many people could come and go and do little bits of things for her ... all based on their strengths. For example, when I came to visit, she would have her computer questions all lined up. When Billy came with me, she would already have her garbage packaged up and ready to go out ... and he thought nothing of trotting it down the lane and flipping it into the dumpster.

So ... for the first nine months or so that we knew JoAn, her daughter and grandson also lived at the campground in their own trailer. Then her daughter moved to SE Texas. JoAn insisted on staying at the campground by herself. Then about six months later we moved back to Dallas for about six months and had to leave JoAn to her own resources (which she utilized very well). Then we moved back to East Texas to a nearby campground and we were able to see JoAn a little more often. Eventually though the day came when JoAn moved down to SE Texas to live in her travel trailer on land belonging to her daughter and son-in-law.

We got to go down and see JoAn a few times before we got to dragg'n our bodies around the country. One visit was Thanksgiving with her family. That was lots of fun because, after dinner, out came the guitars and a harmonica and lots of country singing. ... which eventually led to a revelation from Billy and me ... that he sings a particular song to me ... which caused JoAn to (very innocently of course) ask ... "and thennnn what happens?"

And so she also provided for me a way to be impish ... because, now, sometimes, I set Billy to grinning big by asking ... "and thennnn what happens?" And then we laugh because remembering JoAn is always a good thing.

Oh! And it turns out ... JoAn and Billy share the same birth date ... but not the same birth year.
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Last comment made by Karin ~ 03/07/07
An Apology to Mother and to all IE Users
02/23/07

More lessons in web design.

Well ... Wednesday night my DaughterV IM'd me and announced that she also couldn't see my Thursday Thirteen banner (from last week).

We muddled through it a bit and compared notes and made sure we were both on the same page and finally I also saw the disappearing act that the banner was pulling. DaughterV said, "Yeah, you're just going to have to report it missing from coast to coast ... well, no, really it's more like that Bermuda Triangle thing -- Oregon, New York, Texas ... "

Welllll it turns out that I messed up my HTML code and I could see my Thursday Thirteen banner with Firefox and the Mac browser, uh Safari(?), could also see it. Microsoft's Internet Explorer ... Yeah ... No so fortunate.

So, again, I'm forced to look at something that has caused me issues before. I do not have a blogging system ... I don't have it down to where I can put it in a flowchart and follow it. I have a few portions of it charted out but then I get sloppy and start thinking I don't have to follow it because ... uh ... I'm good? Okay. We won't go there.

One of the most basic rules of web design is: Always check your work in multiple browsers. I've routinely done this when I'm changing the design lay out but ... what I failed to remember is that every post is a design element that deserves to at least a glance in that IE thing.

So I'm working again on my flowcharts and trust me ... "Check IE" is on the board.

And for my mother ... I am sorry I ever doubted that the photo of me on the car wasn't there ... but I know how advertising resistant I am from growing up with ya'll ... so much so that I honestly thought that you just glanced right over it like I do with advertising that shows up in the middle of the blog. Trust me ... I'm not complaining about being advertising resistant. It saves me a lot of eye strain, time and, of course, money.

For everyone else who uses Internet Explorer ... hey, get Firefox ... LOL ... no no really, I'm sorry and I promise to double ck my posts from now on. Oh and I fixed the Still Me after all this Time post. Now everyone can see how adorable I was sitting on the trunk of the car.
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Last comment made by Mike ~ 02/23/07
Thursday Thirteen #10 -- Still Me After All This Time
02/15/07

Hmmm Well I lost grip on the good laptop and my hard drive today! I had to work on rebel and had no access to my hard drive because Billy ended up using it to run his connection to work.

What? The really short version? Billy's Windows on his hard drive closed up shop and left town. Mine still worked. So Billy used mine to work from home today. See?

So I had no access to my writing nor my photos. BUT I did have access to my email. AND one of the good things that happened this week is that my dad found a certain photo that I wanted -- plus he and my mom sat down and pulled together a whole selection for me! So ... I had more than 13 photos in my email ... and so that's what you're getting to see today. And, yes, of course, there's a story or two or three.


Each image opens a larger image. This time there is no compelling reason to open the larger image unless you want to see a little better.

At the bottom of this post you'll find a link to a photo page on my site where you can just click through the titles in order. That way you won't have to keep jumping back and forth between the images here and the larger images there.

My Dad and Me

When I opened my email, we were at Starbucks. Billy was with me and he said, "Oh wow! Look at all these old pictures! They've Got to be More than Fifty years old!" People, I'm not quite 50 yet. He got a smack in the arm.

Still, wow ... my dad sure looks young in that picture!

The next five photos are a series. My mom took them back in the days when it was work to take photos. She got busy with more kids after this day and let my dad do most of the photography. But recently she got her own digital camera. I'm very pleased about that.

Waiting for my Daddy

See, the first thing that happened when I started looking at these pics is that I keep hearing bits and pieces of ideas and conversations. So I'm going to tell you what I think is true ... and then I'll get my parents to show up and set the record straight (the way they remember).

This car is the one and only car that my parents had at the time. I think it might be the one that my dad nearly lost me (before I was born) and my mom out of because it was new and back then you were suppose to work the door handle a certain way to lock the door. Well my mom misunderstood and the door opened as they rounded a corner. My dad grabbed her by the arm and kept her!

I also think maybe my mom learned to drive in this car ... maybe ... I'm 99% sure she learned after they got married ... I think.

Also, I think it was a daily habit for me to watch for my dad. Annnnyway ... The way my dad most likely got home this day was a ride from his brother. They worked at the same place.

Tightening the Wheel

My husband finds it amusing (in a good way) that to this day I still like to understand what's going on with the car and I like to watch him work on them (when we own one). Often, I'm the first to know something is wrong with our car because I learned to listen to them from my dad. I also learned to smell them. I was usually first to know when the heater core was going out ... or a water hose /pump. Back when the fuel pumps were exposed, I'd smell them starting to leak long before anybody else. And this sort of day is where it all began.

What? Actually get my hands dirty working on one? No. But I'll hand you tools and hold the flashlight!

Pit Crew needs Help

My Fashion Sense

I thought this was the funniest photo in the batch because it looks like my mom was trying to make sure I still knew about girl stuff. I'm pretty sure I was making a face about the sun. I actually do like girl stuff. But I find it even more interesting because my mom has a degree in commercial art. Her portfolio is full of dresses and ensembles she drew. But she didn't go to work drawing dresses.

My Mom & Me

At first I thought I just looked tired but I also thought I looked kind of irritated with something. Then I noticed my mom was filing my nails. Which reminded me ... when I was little bitty, I crawled up to my dad and tried to blind him. Oh ok really I scratched him in the eye with one of my little fingernails. He ended up having to go to the eye doc.

Careful Consideration

So what my mom ended up doing was drawing architectural drawings for a really nice man named Mr. Bliss ... I kid you not. (I hope I'm not kidding at any rate.) When I was a baby, my mom would take me to work with her. When I first looked at the photos in Starbucks, I told Billy that's where I was.

But today I see that that is a chanell (sp?!) bedspread ... and I think that dark little box with a long tail is my dad's light meter.

So ... my mom was a WAHM? (That's "Work at Home Mom") I'll have to check the facts on that.

Anyway, would you believe that when I got married, my mom's old boss, Mr. Bliss, and his wife came? Work relationships just don't last like that anymore.

Moreover, my mother is like me (or I'm like her) in that she gets stuck on the very fine details. When she lets go, let me tell you ... it's art! So Mr. Bliss would tell her, "Every time you think of it, hurry a little." So. That's what she taught me. And I still find myself saying those words to myself from time to time.

Brushing My Cares Away



My Dad's Dad

Above and below are my dad's parents. I remember them as always working on something. My grandfather was one of the first diesel truck mechanics ever and my grandmother always had a garden and she cooked a lot. I remember their kitchen smelled of her pie crusts and meats and his coffee and cigarettes.

Have ya'll noticed yet that I do not pose well for photographs with other people? I suspect I was probably trying to get loose to go play in their yard. I loved their yard so much. Always.

My Dad's Mom



My Mom's Dad & Mom

These are my mom's parents. I still have in my possession little bitty squares of paper that I use to write letters on ... little bitty squiggles. Then I would fold them up and put them in a little bitty mail box. Then my grandmother would take them out and read them.

I have to say that I feel exceedingly blessed to have known my grandparents -- all of them. They were always "in my corner." I was spoiled. True. I also knew there rules and regs ... balances and measures -- And they helped to keep me pretty balanced.



So Cute. Asleep!

Usually I napped in my baby bed. This dog had a name. I carried that critter until it was threadbare!

My parents love to tell about how when it was time for my nap, my mom would put me in my bed. There would be some stuffed animals and toys in there. I would sit up and play until I was ready to sleep. Then they'd hear kerplunk kerplunk as I dropped each toy overboard until my bed had no clutter. Then I'd sleep. I'm assuming I did not throw the dog over though.

Posing

Oh look! I'm posing ... and no one else is in the photo ... but oh look ... I was talking ... imagine that! ooh and if I recall someone called a "professional" (whom my mother was not impressed with) took this photo ... isn't that just typical of a kid?


Teaching Sunday School -- 3yrs

This is the bonus photo. When I got to this one, I thought about how fortunate I was to have such good influences in my life -- so many people for me to model after. Obviously, I must have had an inspirational Sunday School Teacher.

But then I was looking at how I was looking at the doll in my arms and I thought for an oldest and only I was doing a great job of being concerned for my baby. LOL but then I realized ... yeah ... I'm pretty sure that's my brother's stroller over on the right of the photo. Pretty sure my mom was doing a great job of modeling baby care.

But see ... here's something else. Even if I'm off and that's not my brother's stroller, the other thing that came floating back to me is that my mother and her mother both made sure that we kids KNEW how to play.

They played with us and gave us ideas and help and above all ... once we got into it, they didn't mess us up ... they got out of the way.

~~~
In the final summary, I realized I'm still me after all this time. I still love the mechanical and the artistic and the photographic ... and I love to learn and love to teach ... OH and I still love having an audience!

Ok alright! If you want, go see the larger images. There's a link on that photo page so you can come back and leave a comment.



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Last comment made by DaughterV ~ 02/23/07
Snow Daze Again
02/14/07

What you probably don't know about how I function in the PC world: My husband and I share one laptop by swapping two different hard drives in and out. The monitor on my otherwise perfectly good pc went out.

Here's the thing ... well a couple of things ...
  • We ordered a monitor.
  • It was scheduled to come in today or tomorrow from OfficeMax.
  • Billy needs to pick up a cable and a power cord for it.
  • We are having a snow/ice storm.
  • I kind of don't expect delivery of the monitor until this thaws ... next week.
  • No way Billy is going to go trapesing around to find a cable, etc.
  • Billy can work from home using his laptop
  • I can't use his laptop with my hard drive in it at the same time he's using it.
  • I have an old rebel laptop that refuses to die.
  • Rebel is slow and it's pixels are going gray. In fact this very line has a horizontal gray line straight through it.
  • Most of my writing is on the other hard drive.
  • It is possible, with effort and searching, to create an ensemble that will allow me to access the files on the other drive via Rebel.

You want the really short version?
  • I've been kicked off my favorite / speedy pc.
  • I'm limping along.
  • I'm building a contraption that will let me access all my files.
I'll see you much later this afternoon or evening.
My Dad Called: "Are ya'll staying warm?"
02/06/07

His real question is: How is Billy doing walking to and from the train?

So ... what I really have to tell you about is "the unfriendly New Yorkers."

I grew up in Dallas, TX. I have lived in the DFW metroplex and in East Texas. I did not know it was possible to feel like vapor. My presence was always acknowledged in some way ... just because I breathed.

I have also visited Portland, Oregon for a year. I say visited because almost as soon as I got there, I wanted to leave. We wouldn't even open up a local banking account. Why? Because unless a person knows you in Portland, Oregon people do not even acknowledge that you are taking up space. You are vapor.

I wanted to go back to Texas. My husband wanted out of Oregon but wanted to find a way to stay in the NW -- in Washington. Nothing was working out. So we papered the nation with his resume and within 30 minutes, Billy was sure we were moving to NY. And the short of it is that we did.

I expected more of the same aloofness. Instead ... I am in a new form of culture shock. I can smile and receive smiles -- not suspicion-filled scowls. I can be just standing around taking up space and suddenly be in conversation. I can laugh quietly to myself about something overheard at the next table in the cafe ... and suddenly I am included in the group's conversation -- with my opinion sought. I can ask questions and get detailed answers. I can pass someone and ask about the book they are carrying. I can find myself walking next to a stranger on the sidewalk and suddenly we're talking about our surroundings and observations.

It is like being back in Texas ... people love to talk ... interact ... have opinions ... hear opinions.

I had a realtor tell me I just know how to bring out the best in New Yorkers but ... it's not just me ... for example .... I offer up one proof: The Starbucks here have regulars and the regulars have a "Regulars Club." If you become involved in conversation with one of the regulars, you will very likely soon be in conversation with all of the regulars who are present. If your coffee shop has a "Regulars Club" like this, you know what I mean ... (if it doesn't, I'll pass on my infiltration tips that I used in Oregon -- just ask.)

AND ...

Let's talk about how it is that my husband is staying warm in sub-freezing weather when he has to hike 1.5 miles to the train station.

My husband is not a small man. He wears an imposing full-length, black duster coat. He takes a backpack with him to work every day. Up until recently it's been dark when he leaves the house. And still ... all of that imposing figure stuff figured in .... almost every morning ... He walks away from the house ... and someone stops and picks him up.

We do not know the people in the small town we live in. It's not always the same someone. Sometimes it's someone who has spoken with him at the train station ... sometimes it's someone who has only observed him at the train station. Sometimes it's someone he talks to every morning. Sometimes it's a lady. Sometimes it's a gentleman.

Every evening he has to change trains. Sometimes there is a person there who sees him and brings him the rest of the way home. If not, he comes on the next train to our town. More often than not ... someone there offers him a ride home.

Sunday he tried to walk home from the A&P (a little further a way) ... Nope. He didn't make it home on foot that day, either. Yep, another complete stranger (with tips on hiking Germany dirt cheep, by the way).

They say the unfriendliness is worse down by the city ... but ... last Thursday, at Grand Central, people volunteered info when they saw it would be useful, stopped short so that I could take photos uninterrupted, smiled if I smiled, and answered any question I had.

I told my dad this and he said, "People talk about how unfriendly New Yorkers are -- but I'm just not believing it's true anymore."

Yeah! Me neither, Daddy!
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Last comment made by Sophie ~ 02/15/07
Miscellany
02/03/07

Did you notice that I wasn't here yesterday?

Valerie and I were going to put up a Saturday edition of Shifting Gears ... uh ...

but V by the time you see this I'll be out on the Appalachian Trail. It snowed last night! Let's put it up tomorrow.

Oh and

Happy Birthday to Daddy Ray
Brother Calvin!


I'll call ya from the trail!

Gotta run

Love ya

pam
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Last comment made by DaughterV ~ 02/03/07
This Just In: Snow in Plano, TX
11/30/06

A story of an icy irony. And a small interruption between the movie and the credits ... but don't worry the credits are still coming.

My Darling Husband, Billy, has been dieing to see snow. He thought moving to New York would mean sure-fire snow. But no! We have yet to see even one flake.
[15:19] marillaanne: meghan just IM'd
[15:19] Billy: Yes and ?
[15:19] marillaanne: it's snowing
[15:19] Billy: NO@@@@
[15:20] Billy: We have chance of snow on Sunday night
[15:20] marillaanne: oh really
[15:20] Billy: This is freakn unfair!

Of course, now we have to wait and see how much they get, how long it lasts, etc compared to how much we get, how long it lasts ... etc!

Right now I'm sitting here with the door open. It's been open all day. Just a wonderful Texas winter day in New York ... so I guess it's fitting that Texas should have New York's snow.

Oh wait there's more ...
[15:43] Meghan: ok it stopped snowin its been doin it off and on
[15:44] Meghan: ok ready for summer now
[15:44] marillaanne: LOL

You think she's kidding? Last year I was there for their winter. One day. Very early in December. That was it.

Maybe when Meghan feels up to it she'll post a pic of their snow.

Ok I'm still working on the credits ... you know how credits are these days ... as long as the movie.
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Last comment made by Daughter V ~ 11/30/06
The Credits (pt3)
11/30/06

A story of Accompaniment. This is to acknowledge the people who came and kept me company on this journey.

First, I would like to thank my parents.
My dad has always read my web site.
My mom recently convinced my dad that I needed a replacement camera for the one I broke.

When my dad found out I was working on NaBloPoMo, he sent me some really funny comments and I kept thinking I would get to post them for him. But ... So ...
The bulls are saying, "One more step and your dead meat."
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If we could read Shelbie's mind after Matthew [Daughter V's husband] put her on the plane, it would be something like this: "I thought that boy and I were getting along pretty decent ... I mean all things considered ... maybe I shouldn't have gotten into that fight with Z [their cattle dog]. But I must admit to myself, it took two dogs to replace me. I must be
pretty good. I will make it no matter where I land,- if this trip doesn't kill me."
.....Hours later....
THERE'S BILLY BOY! Now, there is a nice guy!
Yes, he sees me! He is coming this way! IT'S TRUE, ALL DOGS DO GO TO HEAVEN!!
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As to the family huddle on the beach. It looks like they are taking a vote as to who is going in first to test the temperature of the water.......Poor Pamela.....

I'll come back and get the comments and put them where they should go as I finish re-doing my comment section.

This list contains the names of the people who came and commented on my site. Between their posts and my sporadic replies we generated about 85 comments ... and some very nice conversation ... and that's where I believe we become known.

Thanks you very much!!
oddmix
Daughter V (My middle child)
elaine (meebo)
meghan (My niece)
Sarah (She's my oldest)
Kit (Food and Family)
Melanie Watts (Caffinara)
Kim (Knitten Kittens)
Mary-LUE (Life, the Universe and Everything)
Tonyette (Random Spewings)
johnmoore (from Brand Autopsy)
Barbara Heaney (Here at my Desk)
sari (The Geek Inside)
Vicki (Victoria Gaines)
Kris (to-Breathe)
Darren a/k/a Clare's Dad
Kathy B. (My Empty Nest)
e-Mom (Chrysalis)
Susan (Susan's Musings)
The Husband (Who says he loves me and I should keep writing :-) Any wonder I love him?
Sophie (A Hole in the Fence)
Dirk_Star
daisies (Pluck the Petal)
Liz (Looney Mom)
Barbara (Here at my Desk)

Thanks again!

I especially want to thank the people who have joined with me in making a public declaration of alliance. Yes, we're reading each other's blogs. Yes, we're commenting on each other's blogs. And we're also actively promoting each other. So, basically, I also look at my list of Blog Alliances as a little truth in advertising.
oddmix
Mary-LUE (Life, the Universe and Everything)
Sophie (A Hole in the Fence)
Darren a/k/a Clare's Dad

I can commit to a few more alliances so if you're interested drop me a note.

It's been a blast! So, One more quick thanks to
I am SOOO taking tomorrow and the weekend OFF O F F OFF !!! well ... except there's this little thing I want to do for the holidays ... we'll see ...
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Last comment made by Sophie ~ 12/01/06
So... Are we ready to roll?
11/26/06

Launching into the holidays ... I wonder ....

What are you planning to do with your blog ... the holidays are just beginning to be demanding ... and NaBloPoMo is nearly over ...

How do you plan to keep the excitement in your blog?

I've been roaming around ... looking for ideas ... and there are some interesting activities going on out there ...

But ... can I be nosey and ask ... what are you planning?

Well, I spent my evening building a commenting tool that will live on my blog ... well and my web site for that matter.

The comments are still moderated so there will remain a delay. But trust me ... there are worse things in life.
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Last comment made by Barbara ~ 11/28/06
Ok well ... Supposedly I'm wonderful, witty, and wise
11/25/06

I'm not sure how that story got started (and don't ask my dog whom I forgot outside ... and yet she is so forgiving!) but ...

Tonight ... I am just playing with the pretttty colors and watching Stargate SG-1 ... courtesy of NetFlix and mostly ... mostly ... I am not analyzing SG too carefully ... mostly ... mostly because it makes Billy happy for me to keep my mouth shut during the show and not point out any filming errors or ... you ... know ... errors in uh ... logic. Yeah because the last time he threw me out of the room and I had to go sit in the bedroom all by myself. Tonight ... I'm just enjoying his company and not thinking very hard ... i think it shows, too.

Ya'll have fun!

ttyl
pam

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Good Morning, How was your Thanksgiving?
11/23/06

A story for bringing in the holidays.

Welcome to Christmas!!

This year, I'm going to see if I can actually acknowledge the holidays. And we shall just have to wait and see how that goes.

Today was fantastic ... just Billy and me and Shelbie Dog. Loads of turkey left and a bit of dressing and much to Billy's surprise there's very little cranberry dressing left ... that's cause I fixed MY version. Yummy!

And then we talked to all his siblings and their kids ... and then a friend of mine called ... she is special to me! She surprised me by putting a dollar in my blog's tip jar today!

And then I started my 1000 Gifts List: Click Here.

And I washed clothes that arrived in many boxes yesterday from Oregon. I'm really finally starting to feel like I live here ... shoot ... like I live SOMEwhere instead of ANYwhere.

And then I started decorating my blog for Christmas. I will finish it tomorrow.

Ya'll have fun!
ttyl
pam

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Ya'll I'm Worn Out ... This is gonna be short
11/20/06

A story about what happens when life makes MarillaAnne sad.

I'm not just physically tired. I'm tired down in my soul tired.

I am discovering that when I lose people out of my life ... on the aniversary of the latest loss ... i review all of the losses.

I did not know AT & BJ ... when I first heard of their story, I knew I was in no shape to go look. Not now. I couldn't watch it not go well. Maybe later I'd go look ... when BJ got better.

I felt it coming on as we finalized the the PeaPod order last night. I felt blind-sided when I read about AT over on TheOddMix. I felt befuddled after stopping in the market for an onion and an apple and a loaf of bread ... sitting in the coffee shop ... trying to write ... sipping my orange tea ... watching the clock.

BJ didn't get better. Our Thanksgiving turkey arrived in our PeaPod order tonight. Billy made the first batch of cornbread and we snuck a piece of pumkin pie. Billy attempted roasted chestnuts ... and then decided to go Google "roasting chestnuts" ... after an explosion nailed him in the belly and dog hid in the bedroom with me.

Still I couldn't write ... I went and read awhile -- AT's story. I knew better. I knew it would only take me out where my raw edges live. The problem is this ...
I have a 22 23 yr old daughter.
My oldest brother had a 22 23 yr old son.
My daughter and my nephew were
born two days apart.
He came first.

Thanksgiving day was the beginning of
my daughter's glory as a keeper of family-feast traditions
even though she is far from the family nucleus.

Thanksgiving was my nephew's first day
in the presence of our Father's glory ...
far from the family nucleus.

It takes me, still, a long time to let those words out and
I cannot let them out in one blunt sentence ..
I need a cushion for them ...
I still cannot just say:
My nephew died on Thanksgiving.
I may never be able to.

I just need to talk about it a minute. I miss him. I miss the rest of his family, too. They are on their own journey of grief. If I went back home for Thanksgiving, they wouldn't be there. It's too hard. They are going to go somewhere else. Christmas isn't even being talked about.

We are going to go visit in the summer. Shh don't tell them ... they don't know this ... summer and fireworks and my nephew ... it was good times. I will just stay away from the glow of the fireworks. But I will grin about the times we had at the lake ... he and my kids ... grown kids ... especially that big grown husband kid...

I tried again to meet my writing objective ... but I recognized an old battle. This is an attempt at a compromize. The battle is this. If I refuse to write about the loss of my nephew, my writing voice will not write about anything else.

Grief is kind of demanding like that. It seems to demand that we stop and remember. I think what we remember gets to be more and more of a choice as we move along. Still it's damn nerve-y of it to just come along and suck the breathe outta ya any time it pleases.

AT is kind of in a stale mate with his grief. It will carry him through for a little.

I have to push submit. I have to sleep.

Mr.OddMix, I have not forgotten my other objectives. Hang in there.

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Two Homes for Sale in North Texas
11/18/06

A story of children growing up and time for change.



Tis the season of change for many of my friends as children leave from our nests. So, there are two homes for sale in North Texas. I have been a guest for several nights in each home. I can tell you I will miss having them in my list of options for over night resting places. But, they very well may represent an opportunity to someone who stops by here to read. Both families are the original owners / builders of these homes. They have been carefully built and maintained.

The home above is in Collinsville, TX. The photos are from my visit a year and a half ago. You can read more by visiting the listing at ReMax.com If you are looking for a quiet place to live and raise a family, this is a most excellent spot. The quiet is good for the soul. Did I mention there's also 28 acres?

The second home is in Plano, TX on the east side of I-75. If you believe that being in a metro area is the only way to go, this one is for you. If I discover I have images from the second home, I'll post them later. You can read more about it at the listing at Realtor.com.

Ok this is cutting this deadline thing just a wee bit close. But it's worth it is worth it. My husband took me shopping for a new outfit for Thanksgiving!

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Ketch-up Day is Fun For All
11/09/06

This note is for my RSS Feed Readers ... Just come here and see what's up.

Today is ketch-up day. I need to ketch-up on my housecleaning, my laundry, my email, my NaNoWriMo (I knew there was something I was forgetting to do), my web site features .... Hey! If you drop by and have a navigation issue/suggestion, let me know. I use to test web sites but now I can't figure out my own design. The irony of it all!

I'm also behind on watching some DVD's ... I have one I ordered from NetFlix ... and then ... there's two very very special ones that I've received last week from my father. One is my son's wedding in May and one of my second daughter's wedding in July. I know I'm going to cry. Don't get me wrong. I'm not upset about the weddings. And let me assure you ... these will be very excellent videos ... my dad should go pro ... even if he is uh ... retired.

But ... well for example ... I keep up with some marketing and some design blogs. One of the blogs is John Moore's blog: Brand Autopsy. He has started getting his mom to tell him about all of the family photos – starting with her wedding. When I watched it, I started crying before she did.

Here! While I watch my children's video, you go to Glenna's Wedding at Google Video. If you start crying, you have to give it 5 stars. If you don't start crying, go get a heart transplant. Then go to John's post about the The Wedding Story and tell him he's a very good son. Besides, there's some other news you should know in that post.

Goodness ... 3pm already ... I started this post at about 8am. But ... well the laundry kept needing attention and the heater repair guy was here (yea for a very excellent landlord! And for a 70 degree day on the southern rim of upstate NY!) ... and then the financials had to be done ... so that ... orders could be placed .... and so here we are. And next ... there's this shot i've been hoping to get ... and maybe today's the day ... I keep watching the window ...

But oh hey ... I did remember ... ya'll need entertainment too!

Have fun!

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The Shipping Shelbie Dog Drama Comes to a Close
10/10/06


(Image opens Shelbie's photo album at Flick'r)

I was so full of trepidation about the whole process but now Missy Prissy Shelbie is here safe and sound and very happy.

Valerie and Matt took Shelbie to the PDX airport at about 9pm on Friday night and she arrived at LGA a bit after the noon hour on Saturday. A huge thank you goes out to Ross and his mom for helping us retrieve the critter from the airport. Ross drove and his mom graciously let him borrow her vehicle.

At the airport, Billy reached Shelbie first and opened the door to her crate and gave her some scrubs. He reported that she was shaking just a bit but calmed right down when he petted her.

By the time Ross and I reached them about 10 min later, she was completely calm and she stayed very relaxed as we retrieved her and got her into the car. This is very impressive. I'm not sure what Continental Airlines Cargo did for her but I can tell you this: If she had been stressed for hours and hours she would have been shaking for a while even after she was with us and she would have remained a bit high-strung. But, no, she was a cool regal princess right away ... completely in control.

Here's a breakdown on Shipping or traveling with your "big dog" by air.

The Research

The whole experience with Continental Airlines Cargo was great. Originally I chose to begin my "real world" inquiries into the shipping process with Continental Airlines because my online research indicated that they seem to be the airline that is most interested in shipping live animals and in making it an experience that is comfortable for owner and pet. As soon as I placed my first call full of questions, just to prepare for shipping, I knew I was not going to be calling around for pricing!

My first call was to Continental Airline's Cargo reservationists at the Live Animal Help Desk. And then I called several more times to ask questions (that felt a little silly sometimes) before making the final reservation. They were were very knowledgeable and patient to provide the info need for a good cargo trip for Shelbie. They gave me help far beyond the basic info in Continental Airline's Guide to Traveling with Animals. They never made me feel that I was annoying them as I sorted through my options.

The Pet's Health Considerations

I was especially impressed with how carefully Continental's Live Animal Help Desk answered my questions regarding medications and other health concerns. For example, Shelbie occasionally takes an anti-inflammatory for her arthritis. It also has something in it that can make her groggy. Because of that, it's considered a sedative. Sedatives increase risks during flight in the high altitudes -- even though their cargo area is pressurized the same as the passenger area. For this reason sedated animals are refused. If we had given this routine medication to Shelbie, they would have refused her.

Continental Airlines Cargo partners with Horizon Airlines to ship live animals out of PDX. The staff at Horizon's Cargo facility was equally knowledgeable regarding the shipment of pets. They were ... were equally knowledgeable and very helpful And Patient with last minute questions and logistics. They made sure all of the health paper work was in order.

First, there was the Health Certificate issued by Shelbie's veterinarian. It had to dated within 10 days of travel (for both the outbound and return trips). For older dogs, Continental Airlines Cargo also recommended a more extensive vetinary exam that included liver and kidney screening. Shelbie had had both of these recently so we did not repeat them.

Second, Because Shelbie has a habit of chewing on her crate and making her mouth slightly bloody, we requested the necessary paperwork to declare that we would not want her mouth treated for superficial wounds.

For obvious reasons, Continental Airlines Cargo's personnel does not administer medications. That said, if the airline determines your pet is in medical trouble during the shipment, they will obtain necessary treatment for your pet. You, of course, are responsible for the medical bills and any additional kennel bills.

I have to also say that it was very good that my son-in-law, a vet tech, was able to hydrate Shelbie under the skin before shipping. We chose this route because we know that Shelbie refuses to drink or eat when she is stressed. A dehydrated animal can end up with diarrhea ... not pleasant! Check with your vet and the shipping airline regarding this possibility for your pet. Continental Airlines was okay with the procedure since it was not sedating and it did not require them to be involved.

Also, the extra hydration turned out to be a good thing because the mandatory interior food and water dishes were removed by Miss Shelbers during flight (predicted); therefore she was without a method to administer water. (The dishes must be accessible from the exterior of the crate so the pets can be tended without opening the door.)

Obtaining the Shipping Crate (Kennel), etc

We purchased a Petmate Ultra Vari Kennel as a shipping crate from Petco.com that meets Continental Airline's Cargo's requirements and those of the USDA and IATA regulations regarding the size and type of kennel use for shipping live animals. My husband has deemed the crate "The best crate we've ever had." I have to agree it's sturdy with a flat bottom on which Shelbie can easily sleep and it's easy on the eyes.

We also purchased a few other necessities at Petco.com and had it all (including the kennel crate) shipped to Valerie & Matt. This allowed us to take on the expense and effort of obtaining a crate. Plus, by shipping the crate to them about two weeks before Shelbie's flight, we were able to allow her to get accustomed to her new crate.

I think the oddest thing I purchased was Purina secondnature Dog Litter to use as the required absorbent material in the crate. I didn't even know such a thing existed! It worked so well that we weren't aware it had been needed until we were nearly through cleaning out the crate. (The crate, with the litter still in it, rode home with us in the station wagon, and we didn't smell it!)

The Flight

The Continental Airlines Cargo Live Animal Help Desk is open 24 hrs. I did not really perceive the importance of this until Shelbie was actually at the PDX airport. Because the weather was still warm, the recommendation was to ship her in the evening. There were about three other reasons ... including and departure and arrival times ... that caused her overnight flight to be an excellent decision. Once she was in the air, I found myself drawing some measure of comfort from knowing that the Help Desk could be reached at any point.

We were able to use Continental Airlines Cargo's tracking system on the Internet to follow Shelbie from take off to landing – including a flight change in Houston. Usually they ship animals non-stop but there wasn't one from PDX to LGA.

You know, the whole experience was quite blessed!

So, now, Shelbie is making herself at home. Watching diligently out the door for any errant wild animal that might think this is their domain ... never mind they were here first ... totally irrelevant. She's already been in "time out," aka the crate, for chasing a rabbit. Goodness! Nine or ten years old with advancing arthritis and she can still create quite the excitement.

If you think I can answer any of your questions, or point you in a good direction research-wise, feel free to leave a comment or drop me a note via my "Contact Me" link.
My Shelbie Dog
09/23/06

(Image links to my photos on Flick'r.) This is my Shelbie dog one yr ago. Right now she is in Portland, OR with my daughter. On Oct 7, I get to ship her here! For her sake and our sakes pray everything goes smoothly!

This has also been a test of Flick'r/ Flock/ MarillaAnne interaction.

Yes. Well. I signed up for a Flick'r account (MarillaAnne of course). And then it was time to upload images. I could do it one by one straight off my harddrive--tedious. Or I could upload multiple images with a tool I download from Flick'r that only uploads. Or I could download a browser and an upload tool combo called Flock. No brainer ... two tools in one download ... yep!

The download and install was smooth and sweet. There's a little image bar that runs accross the top of Flock that displays your images or your friends' images that are located on Flick'r or PhotoBucket. If I drag an image from that bar into an "html friendly text box" anywhere on the web, Flock creates the code that displays the image!

Cool hmm!

... oops ... too big ... try that again ... brb.

Ok better!
A Banner Week
05/24/06

A note I sent out today to some close friends ...

Dear Everybody,

I haven't sent out a "Dear Everybody" letter since ... a Christmas letter in my 20's ... oh no wait ... I use to send them to the Wacky Pack ... one of you will remember the Wacky Pack. Wow how time flies.

Anyway, in general, I hate "Dear Everybody" letters. They're so ... ... ... well there's about three different ways a body can turn with that idea ... pick your own path. But I also love writing in forums ... where friendly types I like hang out .... and I love writing comments on blogs ... so let's pretend I'm sending a very private message to my own very private forum group.

First, most of you are wondering why you've not heard from me in at least a month. You can find the answer to that question here: My blog at Xanga

But the bottom line is: I'm freaking out and as I get older, I get quieter and quieter according to the level of freaking out I'm doing.

Here's the short list ...
#1) Right this very minute, Billy is interviewing for a job in Tarrytown. It is outside of NYC to the north ... Like Plano to Dallas, Texas. So far, Billy likes the company and the project. It is a reasonable amount of money for NY especially since we do not have to consider raising children.

God is amazing ... on Sunday night ... when Billy was nearly resigned to the idea that he might not get to go to interview in NY ... $1000 ... was placed in Billy's hand specifically for this trip.

#2) In two hours, Valerie (my middle child) will be taking a "challenge test" ... something like a CLEP. For some insane reason the Art Institute of Portland refrained from telling Valerie that the "basic computer" class that she took in Dallas would not transfer as a "basic computer science" class. Or some such nonsense. ... They did not inform her of this until after the last quarter had started. Right. It's true. So, if she does not pass this test, she does not get to graduate.

#3) Tomorrow, my future daughter-in-law and Matthew, my son, are scheduled to spend the entire day in court. They will be fighting for custody of her daughter. My son has spent a great deal of his time and energy and money ... oh and love ... on this endeavor and I am exceedingly proud of him.

#4) Tomorrow Valerie will be flying to Dallas and must somehow maintain her studies, visit with everyone, and attend to all the events surrounding her brother's wedding.

#5) As it stands right this minute, I will not be flying to Dallas for Matthew's wedding. There is no money. It is hard to accept. And I know if God can place money in Billy's hands for the interview in NY, he can certainly get me (preferably us) to Dallas ... clothed appropriately.

I covet your prayers in all of these things. God has been very good to us in amazing ways. I believe He is capable of providing good gifts. In fact this has been my prayer for my family during this time ...

"Lord, you know the good gifts I want for my family and for myself. You are able to provide much better than I can imagine or ask. Please protect and provide."

It is based on the words of Jesus in Matthew 7: 9 - 11
9"Or what man is there among you who, when his son asks for a loaf, will give him a stone?
10"Or if he asks for a fish, he will not give him a snake, will he?
11"If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give what is good to those who ask Him!

I will tell you one thing ... one lesson I have learned about friends. It is a deep and rich blessing to have people in my life ... many of whom I've never met ... all over the world ... friends who want good things to happen for me. There are, however, times when I wish travel was not so expensive ... specifically ... funerals and weddings ... you have been missed at a few ... and I have missed a few. But ... I also cannot begin to express what it means to me to have such a varied collection of friendships ... you are such a vibrant group of warm threads in a beautiful and comforting shawl about me.

I stand in need of your prayers and I know I can count on you for them.

With love for you all and hopes that you will find joy in your life,

PamElise
Aka MarillaAnne
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We'll be moving ... to New York
05/25/06

Billy and I trade text messages via cell phone ... it looks like this ...

"I start the 5th. I love you."

"I just want you to know I think this may be only covered under the "extenuating circumstances" of our marriage vows ... It definately was not in the bold print! NEW FRIGG'N YORK?! I must love you!"

"It was hidden in the fine print. I just found it myself."


So yet again we are shifting gears.
The Cow and The Cud
07/14/06

One day Someone decided Someone wanted fresh milk. Someone bought the cow. Someone bought hay for the cow.

Someone fed the cow. Someone watched the cow chew and chew and chew ... the grass ... the cud ... the grass ... the cud ... Someone got impatient. Someone left the cow standing in the field. Someone Else got the milk.

I feel like the cow and the Someone Else.

Just when I could start to feel a project begin to come together and make sense ... Someone got impatient ... left me standing in the field. But I am also the Someone Else because the project pieces are turning into milk for me.
Six Nights until the Wedding, Seven until I move
07/16/06

Good Stuff
Tense Stuff

I don't know what else to say. Lots left to do. I am concerned.

On a lighter note, I've been gifted with $300 for a camera. And tomorrow I get a respite from observing the front lines. Sarah-the-wedding-planner arrives tomorrow and I'm going to go stay in a hotel. Also a gift.
5 Nights until V's Wedding; and on the sixth night I move
07/18/06

Well the wedding planner sister and her husband (my son-in-law) arrived safe and sound today. We are all relieved!

And Billy had a very long money adventure today ... bottom line I told my dad I'd rather have my husband at the wedding than have a camera.

My dad said:

"Oh let's have our cake and eat it, too!" So he loaned us the money to get Billy here. Then we talked about cameras. Then I told him to go get some sleep but it sounded like mother was going to be up packing a little longer.

In a few hours 10 of my family members get on the same plane. My dad made some wise crack about I could become a very rich lady tomorrow ...

"Daddy! Get it right! You are coming to a Wed-ding ... NOT a Wake!"

"Oh! OK! Well let's keep it that way! Oh and pray for your momma -- she's never been on a plane before."

"She's gonna LOVE it!"

Soooo

Then Thursday 2 more of mine plus Valerie's dad's family get on another plane. (That's a total of 8 of my children's relations) Plus one of V's friends.

Then Fri night late ... it will be Billy coming in from New York and my son comes straggling in from Dallas.

Then Saturday we have the wedding at 1p.

Then Saturday night at 11pm Billy and I zoom off to New York.

I'm beginning to feel like I don't really live anywhere ... just every where.
Wait how many nights and days?
07/19/06

tuesday night
wednesday day
wednesday night
thursday day - 18 member family careening trip to the beach and back
thursday night - bachelorette party ... but I don't get to go.
friday day - i'm going to talk someone into taking me to Multnomah Falls and up the mountain one more time!
friday night - Rehersal dinner and then Billy arrives
saturday day - Valerie's wedding
saturday night - We leave
sunday day - We pitch camp

so I survive three more nights until Billy gets here.

we survive four more nights before V's wedding day.

we surive night five in the air.

on the fifth day we pitch camp. Note: At this point day five comes after night five.

Right now, the main obective for night one is sleep.

Tomorrow I'm going to bag a camera. I'm fed up with stalking. I think I'm going with the Fuji S5200. There's nothing compact about it. It's all about big lenses, 10x optical zoom, low noise, and huge control.
So ... You want an update?
07/28/06

So Wow! There's over a week I need to catch ya'll up on. Ok well ... Let's see ... so much so fast ...

One thing I failed to mention about Tuesday ... my family landed in Seattle and the temps shot into the 100's in Portland ... and ... they stayed there all week.

Wednesday ... mmm ... well ... I'm sure it happened. We are well past it. Oh, Tuesday all night Stephen, my first son-in-law, climbed Mt. Hood. He didn't get to the top because the snow and ice on the particular route he chose was too much. If he'd gone a different route, he might have made it up higher but he also admitted it was just a lot to take on with so little prep and rest time prior to the climb. All the same, he got some great pictures of "probably the most beautiful sunrise I've ever seen."

I called the Ritz camera store and had them put a Fujifilm DS2500 on hold + all the goodies. It looked fairly certain that my dad and my oldest brother and the entourage wouldn't get in until late. My best hope was that we could make a charge into the camera store before the trip to the coast.

Turns out that I have a very good brother. When he realized they would make it in before Ritz closed, he called and they got all the info and drug my dad to the camera store.

On Thursday morning when we met for the beach trip, I also found out that my brother had also "drug them on a FOUR mile hike!" Now, when my dad told me this, I knew we were all getting old. My dad was complaining about a four mile hike and my brother had only selected a four mile hike! But then I was informed that, no, my brother was not getting old he was just moving a little less quickly because he and his son and my cousin had gone up Long's Peak about four or five days before.

The trip to the beach was great! Just a perfect Oregon beach day. It was also the only time we'd be cool sans air conditioning for the rest of the week. I spent the evening visiting with my youngest brother and his wife.

Friday morning I woke happy, happy. Billy was going to be coming into town and he'd be able to help me move the last of the boxes I was packing and then we'd get a good night's sleep ... and then he called from the NY airport. And ... I basically came unglued. There were severe thunderstorms in the area. The best they could do to get him to Portland was 1pm on Saturday!

So, yeah, I was sobbing. The wedding would start at 1:30 over an hour away from the Portland airport.

Billy talked to United, Billy called Travelocity, I called United. It did indeed look very bleak. What I found out from United, that they weren't telling the people in NY was that there was actually a series of thunderstorms. They really didn't know when they'd be able to get people out of NY. I almost just let go of it but Billy had asked me to also look online.

I calmed down enough to call down and get the hotel management to let me use an adjacent room that did have working Internet. (I had been going down to the lobby to use the Internet because the connection in my room didn't work.) It was a very easy. He quickly agreed. I think they were trying to figure out how to check on me, anyway. When I opened my door to get the key from the manager, there was a very very worried looking housekeeping lady standing off to the side.

I looked at Travelocity and discovered that there were three airlines offering flights at about 6am out of Billy's connecting city (Denver). Up to this point, the best anyone would suggest was a standby on an 8:30am flight. So, my deduction was that they didn't really expect to get Billy to Denver before 6 AM! I called him with the news and told him he'd better just find a corner and try to get a little sleep. This is very difficult for someone with sleep apnea ... all the same ... a little sleep is better than none.

So the show goes on, right? At the rehearsal dinner, everyone was asking about when Billy's plane landed that night and I would just smile and say, "It won't be coming tonight. It's a matter of prayer. Pray for a flight that lands him in Denver before 6am."

Just as dinner was ending I got a text message from Billy that he was boarding a plane.

I had to get into the rehearsal phase so I updated my youngest brother re the Denver possibilities and asked him to see what he could do through United.

United worked with my brother and got Billy on a 6am flight to Portland via Herizon Airlines.

At 2am Billy sent me a text message to be sure and thank my brother for his work because United proceeded to overbook that flight. Since Billy was one of the very first people to book, he had no problems getting onto the flight.

Hmmm and writing this I just realized that Billy's text message to me was an odd thing! I shouldn't have even received it. Several of us tried unsuccessfully to send Billy a reply from the dinner. We were on an analog signal!

Since newest daughter-in-law (technically she's my only possible daughter-in-law) was also sans husband, she and Emma went with me to my hotel to stay the night. I so needed and appreciated Sam's help!

Then wa-la! My son's plans changed. Seems the groom ran out of room for all of his groomsmen to stay the night with him. So ... he also came and stayed the night with me (well ok and with Sam & Emma.)

Emma tried hard to stay awake but she collapsed. They put her in bed with me. Do you know that the older I get the more therapeutic my granddaughter's snuggles get? She found me in the middle of the night ... in the middle of the king size bed ... and just about snuggled me out of bed by the time the sun came up. I didn't care.

So ... I'm outta time ... library's closing ... I'll tell you all the rest another day.
A Moving Wedding Day
08/11/06

Saturday morning Matthew and Sam went and fetched Billy from the airport. Then they ran a whole bunch of errands while Billy and I got ready and finished the packing for our move. (Ok and we did squeeze in one bodacious hello kiss.) I was surprised by how much we were able to accomplish! I was especially surprised by how many errands Sam and Matthew ran.

After much running
back and forth
between V's apt
with packed boxes and
wedding gifts and
bubbly and
dog,
we took off for the wedding.
Luggage in the back.
Luggage in the floor.
Luggage in our laps.
Zoom!
Off to the Woodland Recreational Area!

We hoped we were also off to much cooler temps! But, at the foot of Mt. Hood, the heat was still stifling. The humidity reminded us that we were indeed in a rain forest. There wasn't even a breeze! That was a bit disappointing and it created several challenges.

We did the formal pictures without walking far. Stayed in the shade! The guests were not seated until we were all ready to line up and march in. Then, they charged the field -- the middle of the baseball diamond -- but only rushing in in a manner appropriate for that much heat -- to the accompaniment of a string quartet. I have deep respect and admiration for the quartet who had been seated and prepared for at least ten minutes prior. But they were obviously pros and brought their own canopy. Good thing!

Perhaps I should explain something at this point. Yes, I have a son named Matthew. I now have a son-in-law named Matthew, whom we call Matt. Mainly we call him Matt because that is the name he gave when he introduced himself to us. His family calls him Matthew. Adding to the duplicate name theme … the bridesmaids were V's cousins, V's sister and step-sister, and Matt's cousins. One of V's cousins is Emily. Her sister is Sarah. Matt's cousins are Sarah and Emily.

So the guests are seated and the "white carpet" is rolled out and the wedding party processional begins. The "white carpet" turned into a challenge as it was really a thin piece of vinyl-type material and the ladies' heels poked and tore innumerable holes in it. Between it clinging to their heals and the very uneven ground, there was a major support role played by the groomsmen and the bride's father.

Matt's mother and I walked in together and went down and lit the two single candles that V and Matt were to use to light their unity candle. Hmmm well my lighter wouldn't fire … Matt's mom tried too and then she gave me hers and it suddenly wouldn't light … neither of us to get either lighter to work … In a true moment of inspiration, she snatched up her candle and my hand and we lit my candle with hers. I thought it was fitting because I firmly believe that the support of both families will help them to have a more successful marriage. Even the photographer murmured that it made a much better photograph.

So somewhere along in here clouds cover moved in and broke the glare. There was nothing ominous about them … just clouds.

The pastor started by saying that he'd been requested to not get overly long with the ceremony … by numerous people from all the various groups that made up the gathering. He blamed the heat on the Texas people … and then admitted he was also a Texas native. (He's been a pastor in Oregon long enough to raise his family there … so over 20 yrs.)

And so the vows began … Matt got choked up. Everyone got teary-eyed. Valerie sounded poised, calm, and exceptionally clear. Matt believed he'd said enough and was ready to kiss the bride. But then the pastor encouraged him to go ahead with the ring exchange and Matt readily agreed.

Then more wet drops fell … not tear drops ... Rain Drops! We all stayed calm … it was just light-weight stuff. The pastor sped up even more. They got the rings exchanged. Then it was time for the unity candle and the rain was beginning to fall just a little faster but still lightly. Matt was able to get the single candles relit (imagine that … they went out) and they lit their candle … which was just resistant enough that, with the little breeze and drizzle added, we all found ourselves holding our breath a bit.

The pastor presented Matt and V as a couple and announced that they would be back to greet their guests by dismissing the rows. Matt assisted V through the vinyl Swiss cheese carpet. And then … the ushers pulled up the "carpet" to the sound of cheers. The bridesmaids and groomsmen exited … all the while the rain is misting down on us. The bride and groom rushed back and dismissed the first two rows and then the rain became more intense and so they shoo-ed everyone else into the shelter.

It was probably one of the sweetest and shortest ceremonies I've ever attended. Of course the rain stopped immediately thereafter. The heat did not. Still, the reception proceeded in a very leisurely fashion and was completely enjoyable. There was great food … a combo of "Texan" and Oregon. I think the biggest surprise was the picante sauce! It was fresh -- made by the caterer. True he followed a recipe … but you have to understand … Oregonians don't do spice. It's just a fact of life up there. Most of the "Texan food" was toned down for the sake of the Oregonian guests but not the picante! -- Perfectly served with the Texas shaped chips that were shipped in special.

The couple doing the catering took great pleasure in announcing the cake. (They are members of the same church and all of their work was their gift to Matt and V!) "Ladies and Gentlemen! At the bride's request, we are now serving cheesecake covered with fresh Oregon berries." And let me tell you … Fresh berries are one thing that Oregon excels in!

The car was decorated. The guests trickled off and Matt and V stole away for a few more photographs down by the river. The family (including Matt and V) took down and packed up all of the décor. Then the party was adjourned by the bride for games in a cooler location – the lobby of her grandparent's hotel!

So this is where the wedding story pretty much ends and the moving story takes up … but do keep in mind that at this point Billy had been awake for at least 36 hrs.
A Moving West Coast - East Coast Story
08/11/06

There comes a time when you just have to say, "Okay, God, WhatEver! Just provide our needs." It comes at the end of your wits – when there's no doubt that what follows is "a God thing."

Through various events … some within our control and some far outside our control … we've been years without consistent income with the last eight months being the worst. Basically, it began about December 2005 when deep resentments caused me to clench my fists and yell, "I do NOT want to live in Oregon. I WILL Leave Oregon." Poof! Money vanished!

Leaving Oregon would also have meant leaving Valerie to finish her BS degree and get ready for her wedding without my support. I believe she could have accomplished both without me – especially the wedding since her expert-event-planning sister was deeply involved. But, repeatedly, all our efforts left me in Oregon until the wedding was done – then we were gone on a red-eye.

Really, as far as the wedding went, I was just company for Valerie on missions she and her sister had already plotted. Well, And … when Valerie would say, "I don't think I've gotten anything accomplished, I'm just going in circles not doing anything," then, I would be able to review her list of accomplishments and account for how her morning or evening had been devoured by phone calls and meetings and research. Sometimes she would feel better … sometimes she would be convinced that there was a plot underway to keep her from accomplishing all she wanted.

So …oh yeah … the moving story … let's see … backtrack time … wow … such a crazy thing … May, around the 8th of May … I was helping Billy with his online job search. I went to several different sites that are designed for matching employers with employees. They all told the same sad story. Very little was happening in Oregon and Washington in software development and nothing showed up in Billy's field of expertise.

When the list for the entire nation came up, there were hundreds and hundreds of jobs available – specifically in Billy's specialty language. I went into the living room to talk to Billy.

"Have you looked at the list of jobs available to you nation-wide?"

"There's much more going on nation-wide than there is here."

"What would you think? Valerie's nearly through college. She doesn't really need me for the wedding planning. She and Sarah have that well in hand and Sarah's coming in early … "

"I'd be open to living somewhere else for a few years – at least long enough to get our feet back under us."

And so … with no money in the bank, we sent his resume out all over the nation – specifically stating that it was possible to self-relocate. Mmm. Yep. That's what we did.

Within thirty minutes, a company in New York called. There was a job in a little town thirty or so miles north of NYC. Would Billy be interested in interviewing? … Sure!

One phone interview … one week … another phone interview … a few days … one last phone interview …

Now, a bit before Easter, we started attending Easthill Four Square Church. Billy went full out to become involved. I was in wounded limp mode a bit behind him – feeling for all the world that the breath had been knocked out of me. I was tired and confused … why was God denying me the opportunity to leave Oregon?

One thing Billy did was become involved in a men's small group. Our experience proves that a group of men ministering to one man can provide that man's wife with much encouragement and healing. The second week he attended they were God's answer to our prayers for food money.

From the beginning, they intently followed Billy's job search. After the last phone interview, we had a problem. On a Wednesday, the call came in. "Will you come to New York for a face to face interview? It is against their company policy to hire without one." Billy said "yes" even though we had nothing in the bank and really nothing in our pockets.

Prayers started flying all through the Easthill church.

Saturday Billy talked to some old friends who could have helped in a flash … but … they just scoffed at Billy for wanting to even have anything to do with anything in New York. That was a bit painful ...

Sunday morning while Billy was serving in the bookstore, I went to ask for prayer from one of the Prayer Teams. I got two feet from them and burst into tears. The lady cradled me in her arms and prayed over me with all the love of a grandmother. Her husband also lifted his voice over me in agreement with her prayers. When I stopped sobbing, I explained the whole thing. More than I will share here. They prayed more specifically.

Sunday night Billy met with his small group. I was giving up. Billy still believed so strongly. When he came home, all I could do was sob again. He held in his hands a $1000 check.

Monday night, just before midnight, Billy flew out and landed Tuesday afternoon, took a shuttle to the village, and then walked to a hotel. Wednesday, the interview went very well. After the interview, Billy went to visit one of the church pastors. He ended up spending the night in the pastor's garage then he left early Thursday morning.

Start date was to be June 5. That start date was pushed out at the last min to July 3. Billy wrote "the headhunter dude" and said the change was forcing him to reconsider his options. Suddenly there was a promise of a signing bonus if he'd just hang in there. Turns out this signing bonus was just exactly enough … to get Billy back out to New York and allow him to camp and eat until his first paycheck. One problem … the campgrounds were filled because of the Forth of July Holiday. So the pastor agreed to lend Billy the garage again for four nights … does this remind you of a manger story?

In the mean time, I'd gotten a little smidge of contract work in and it was enough to keep me in food. But it was short lived due to some sort of internal confusion … and … umm yeah …

So … let's see … Billy had enough to go and there was suppose to be enough to let him return … OR I could also leave and go to New York but then neither of us would be at Valerie's wedding. I had to let it be Valerie's call. She decided she'd rather put up with me for a few more weeks than miss having Billy (and me) at the wedding.

I had mixed feelings. A note from my dad made me more certain that I did want to stay and see all the family that would be coming up for the wedding.

Still … I missed Billy so much. But Billy made it a point to call every night and I made it a point to call and wake him up every morning. Translation: At 2:30 a.m. every weekday morning, I would call him at 5:30 a.m. so he would have a backup alarm and be sure to make his bus on time -- well and he also confessed that it helped him to hear my voice in the mornings.

I told Billy I couldn't see how anything I said could be inspiring enough to start a day with since I couldn't even remember saying anything.

He told me:
You say, "Good Morning. I love you."
I smile and say, "I love you, too. Now, go back to sleep."

I told him: "Well that must be what I do because I barely know I'm making the calls."

My dad & mom used my birthday as an excuse to buy me a camera and to buy me an outfit for the wedding. By the time Valerie's wedding came around they were also bailing us out with a loan for Billy's round-trip and for my one-way ticket because it seems that the company couldn't figure out how to pay Billy his first check in a timely manner compounded by the fact that our bank is still in Texas … and I still hadn't received my last check from the little project I had. (I did receive payment shortly thereafter and I got to use it as a "happy electric bill" gift to Valerie.)

So then insert the Wedding Story here ...

By the time we boarded the plane for New York, Billy had been awake for just over 48 hrs. He slept a little on the plane. He finally has relaxed enough that when he stops breathing I can just nudge him and he'll start breathing again And he keeps sleeping. In the past he would just get mad at me for waking him up. It was a long process to get to this point.

An aside for anyone else who loves someone with sleep apnea: Their irrational denial about the problem seems to be a universal challenge for us who love them. Don't go insane feeling like you're the only one having irrational discussions like:
"Quit waking me up!"
"But you aren't breathing!"
"I am, too."
"No, I'm watching you not breathe. I'm watching your body fight you for air. I'm the one who's getting kicked when your body finally finds a position to catch a breath!"
"You're exaggerating."

This is the same man who dutifully uses his breathing machine and knows that he feels better when he uses it. The same man who will say after a night at the sleep study clinic (for a new study for a new machine), "I'd rather stay awake all night than sleep like that."

Really? Oxygen deprivation kills brain cells and does other horrible things to the heart and lungs and internals ... but ... yeah ... we're just making the whole thing up ...

You aren't alone. Check out some good sleep apnea support message boards.

Ok back to the story ... so we spent the flight from Portland, Oregon to Chicago with him occasionally snoring (snoring is ok ... the air is just making noises going in and out) and me squirming to get comfy and occasionally rubbing a hand against his rib cage to remind him to breathe. I only had to wake him up and tell him to start his sleep cycle over once or twice. He does so much better when he's getting in a lot of walking. Thankfully it was a fairly large plane with a fairly good sized seating arrangement.

Chicago to New York was a tight squeeze in the airplane. Billy slept little. I think I closed my eyes once.

We landed in New York La Guardia. I followed Billy's now expert lead to the area where we transfered everything to a shuttle van and took off to the church (garage) in Tarrytown where most of Billy's stuff was stashed.

As we unloaded at the church, Billy realized that people were going in for morning service. So ... we put my stuff in the garage with his stuff and then we went to church! It is a small congregation but the service was great. But we had to compare notes afterwards to get the whole sermon. Either I was nudging Billy awake or he was nudging me.

After church, we left everything in the garage and Billy took me to lunch at a fantastic Greek restaurant. I love Tarrytown! It has taken good care of its old buildings, kept itself clean and it's compact. And it has a coffee shop that allows dogs!

After Billy pointed at a few buildings ... that I remember next to nothing about, we went back to the church's garage, collected half our belongings, walked dowwwnnn the hill to the train, took it to Croton, Billy hailed a taxi ... my first ever ... and I officially fell in love ... with taxis.

I'll tell you all about camping and the apartment hunt another day. This post is long enough.

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