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Women are Fantastic Friday #3 -- Donna "One More Day"
03/24/07

The Women are Fantastic Friday meme is curated by Sophie, of A Hole in the Fence. It gives us a chance to tell about the women in our lives who are encouraging us to have a "We Can Do It" attitude. Today I am telling the story of "Donna" and how she lived "one more day" for over ten years.

When I met Donna, it had been going on for eight years. She and I got to know each other one spring in Texas on a lake. They bought a little piece of property right outside the campground. Then she left to spend the summer away from the heat in the north.

Donna and her husband returned in the fall. And the brief respite from the year before was done. Her first visit with her doctor confirmed the worst. She had yet another brain tumor. So she began her ninth year since the first tumor with yet another round of meds and chemo and other forms of torture.

The church around the corner from the campground prayed her through just as they had year after year. They also prayed for Donna's daughters and always managed to send them some support as well.

Donna's daughters were missionaries in Africa. Their hearts were there with the people and their husbands and children. Donna's daughters worried over their mom and Donna worried over her daughters and grandchildren. But none of their prayers requested an easier way -- just another day.

In an amazing grace, the tumor receded. Donna and her husband managed another summer northern migration and found a driver to bring them back for the fall and winter and early spring in Texas.

When Donna returned, it was fairly clear. Tumors again. We were slowly losing Donna in her mind. Some days she was clear. Some days she was angry. Some days she was distant. And the little church around the corner prayed her through. And she was granted another day and one more visit with one of her daughters.

We left and went our ways. But we heard this and we heard that. Donna improved, she waned. She stuck it out. I know she reached the ten year anniversary in her battle and that she got to spend time with her other daughter and her family when they had some "leave time."

And then ... I lost track ... so you know how in my imagination my first grade teacher is still living -- on the coast of Washington, on an island, watching the seasons change? Well, I have an imagined story for Donna as well.

One day she and her husband found a little place where the summers weren't too hot and the winters weren't too cold. They stopped migrating to avoid the extremes. Donna had her mother's furniture removed from storage and sent to her. Donna's grandchildren came back to the states and lived with them and went to a nearby college.
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Mary-LUE 03/24/07
Wow... This is so bittersweet. It reminds me of a friend of my mom. She was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's Disease (ALS) when her daughters were very young. Against the odds, she lived until one was in high school and the other had graduated. I think her prayer was to survive long enough to see them grown.

~ Wow! I have a friend who some years back met a lady somewhat older than her. They were both on their own and eventually they purchased a house together. They have walked each other through some very traumatic times. I thought of them while I was writing this. This last week my friend's friend was diagnosed with ALS.

Your friend really did beat the odds ... huge!
~pam
Sophie 03/25/07
"Bittersweet" is a good word for this story. Thanks for sharing it; I certainly was moved by reading it. Your friend reminds me of the neighbor of my sister's that I wrote about last week. I'm amazed at the strength of some people.

"But none of their prayers requested an easier way -- just another day." -- something I need to remember and meditate on!

~ Hey! I'm glad you discovered I did get to write. I'm looking forward to getting over to your blog and going to read everyone else's entries, too. I think I'll get to do that tomorrow. I'm headed to bed, now.

Your meme has given me the chance to realize that I have encountered some of the bravest women in times in my life when I so needed the encouragement. How cool is that?! Thanks!
~pam
Lulu 03/27/07
I'm so sorry that you lost touch with your friend. It sounds to me like prayer certainly got her through as far as it did. I hope that your imagined story is true.

~ Ya know I forget ya'll don't already know the story somewhat. Donna and I were never "friends" although we were definitely good acquaintances.

There are places ... structures ... like coffee shops and camp grounds that collect regulars. The regulars "know each other" and there are even cliques within them. The cliques may even be "of different camps" but woe unto anyone who thinks they will make changes to "the place" ... the regulars will unite.

The thing is ... if the place is removed or one is removed from the place, the "knowing" is often lost.

Oh, and yes, I am convinced that the prayers of the church and her daughters and, also, her own prayers were instrumental.
~pam
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